How to Be a Genius - The School Of Life

We hear a lot about genius. We are taught to admire the minds of those infinite, baffling but astonishing geniuses like Einstein, Tolstoy or Picasso. HowtoBeaGenius-TheSchoolOfLife BrowseArticlesbyTopic Pageviews40954 Self-Knowledge • EmotionalSkills HowtoBeaGenius Wehearalotaboutgenius.Wearetaughttoadmirethemindsofthoseinfinite,bafflingbutastonishinggeniuseslikeEinstein,TolstoyorPicasso. Quitewhatgeniusmightactuallybeisleftalittlevague.It’sacodewordfor‘brilliantbutperhapstooother-worldlyeverreallytofathom.’Weareinvitedtostandinaweattheachievementsofgeniusesbutalsotofeelthattheirthoughtprocessesmightbequasi-magicalandthatitisultimatelysimplymysterioushowtheywereeverabletocomeupwiththeideastheyhavehad. Butthereisaradicallydifferentview,suggestedbyahugelyprescientquotefromthe19thcenturyAmericangeniusRalphWaldoEmerson: Inthemindsofgeniuses,wefind–oncemore–ourownneglectedthoughts. Whatthistellsusisthatthegeniusdoesn’thavedifferentkindsofthoughtsfromtherestofus.Theysimplytakethemmoreseriously.Weourselveswilloftenhavehadourownsketchy,hesitantversionoftheirideas–whichiswhytheirworkscanhavesuchadistinctiveimpressiononus.Whattheypresentfeelssurprisingandimpressive,ofcourse;yetalsoobviousandright–onceithasbeenpointedout.Theyaregivingclearandpowerfularticulationtonotionsthatarealreadyfamiliarbecausewe’vebeencirclingthemourselves,possiblyforyears,withoutquiteeverbeingabletocloseinonthemproperly.   Geniuscaninthissensebedefinedaspayingcloserattentiontoourrealthoughtsandfeelingsandbeingbraveandtenaciousenoughtoholdontothemevenwhentheyfindnoimmediateechointheworldbeyond.Thereasonwhywedisavowsomuchofwhatpassesthroughourmindsisinessenceanxiety.Wekilloffourmostpromisingthoughtsforfearofseemingstrangetoourselvesandothers(whichexplainswhysmallchildrenare,intheirownway,somuchmoreinterestingthantheaverageadult:theyhavenotyetbecomeexpertsinwhatnottosayorthink). Butwhenwecensorandclosedown,whenwetakefrightandtrynottothink,isexactlythemomentwhentheso-calledgeniusstartstotakenoteofwhatishappeningwithinthem. Weoperatewithafalsepictureofgeniuswhenweidentifyittoostronglywithwhatisexoticandutterlybeyondus.Itissomethingfarmoreprovocativethanthis.Geniusiswhatweallcanbewhenwepaycarefulattentiontowhatistrulypassingthroughconsciousness.Weallhaveverysimilarandveryableminds;wheregeniusesdifferisintheirmorerobustinclinationstostudythemproperly. CloseIndex BrowsearticlesbyTopic Calm Leisure Relationships Relationships|Self-Knowledge Self-Knowledge Self-Knowledge|Leisure Sociability Uncategorised Work Calm Anxiety 01.OnBeing'Triggered' 02.OCD—andHowtoOvercomeIt 03.HowMentalIllnessImpactsOurBodies 04.SignsYouMightBeSufferingfromComplexPTSD 05.OnSkinPicking 06.StoicismandTigersWhoCometoTea 07.TheSevenMostCalmingWorksofArtintheWorld 08.AftertheStorm 09.ThoughtsfortheStorm 10.EmotionalMaturityinaCrisis 11.PreparingforDisaster 12.HowtoStopBeingScaredAlltheTime 13.TheUltimateDarkSourceofSecurity 14.WhatEverybodyReallyWants 15.Simplicity&Anxiety 16.AWayThroughPanicAttacks 17.Self-Hatred&Anxiety 18.TheQuestionWeShouldAskOurselvesWhenAnxious 19.OnAnxiety 20.TheTrueCauseofDreadandAnxiety 21.OnBeingScaredAlltheTime 22.TheImportanceofHavingABreakdown 23.OnAskingforHelp 24.TheNormalityofAnxietyAttacks 25.OnPanicAttacks Perspective 01.StopWorryingAboutYourReputation 02.YouStillHaveTime 03.IWillSurvive! 04.OnTryingtoControltheFuture 05.AFewThingsStilltoBeGratefulFor 06.NoOneKnows 07.ThereisNoHappilyEverAfter 08.TheCatastropheYouFearWillHappenhasAlreadyHappened 09.ThereisAlwaysaPlanB 10.TheConsolationsofHistory 11.TheLessonsofNature 12.WhatOthersThinkofYou-andTheFallofIcarus 13.OntheSublime 14.GratitudefortheSmallThings 15.Why‘Earthrise’Matters 16.OnFlowers 17.TheValuableIdeaBehindtheConceptoftheDayofJudgement 18.TheWisdomofAnimals 19.TheLotteryofLife 20.UntranslatableWords 21.TheWisdomofRocks:Gongshi 22.WuWei–DoingNothing無爲 23.TheFaultyWalnut 24.PerspectivesonInsomnia 25.OntheWisdomofSpace 26.MementoMori 27.OntheWisdomofCows 28.OnCalmingPlaces 29.WhySmallPleasuresAreaBigDeal 30.TheConsolationsofaBath 31.TheImportanceofStaringouttheWindow 32.Clouds,Trees,Streams 33.OnSunshine Perspective|Leisure Serenity 01.TheWisdomofDusk 02.TheAppealofAusterePlaces 03.HowtoGotoBedEarlier 04.WhyWeAllNeedQuietDays 05.TheBenefitsofProvincialLife 06.HowtoLiveinaHut 07.ForThoseWho(Privately)AspiretoBecomeMoreReclusive 08.TheHardWorkofBeing'Lazy' 09.Expectations-andthe80/20Rule 10.TakingItOneDayataTime 11.SpiritualityforPeoplewhoHateSpirituality 12.HowtoSpillADrinkDownOne’sFront-andSurvive 13.HowToStopWorryingWhetherorNotTheyLikeYou 14.OnSoothing 15.WhatIsWrongwithModernTimes-andHowtoRegainWisdom 16.TheDisasterofAnthropocentrism-andthePromiseoftheTranscendent 17.OnNeedingtoFindSomethingtoWorryAbout—WhyWeAlwaysWorryforNoReason 18.HowWeAreEasily,TooEasily,'Triggered' 19.Hypervigilance 20.IfTheWorstCametotheWorst... 21.TheWondersofanOrdinaryLife 22.InPraiseoftheQuietLife 23.ThePursuitofCalm 24.InsomniaandPhilosophy Leisure Art/Architecture 01.FranciscoGoya'sMasterpiece 02.HowIndustryRestoresOurFaithinHumanity 03.RembrandtasaGuidetoKindness 04.BuildingsThatGiveHope-andBuildingsThatCondemnUs 05.KatsushikaHokusai 06.AgnesMartin 07.TheImportanceofArchitecture 08.TheSecretofBeauty:OrderandComplexity 09.LeCorbusier 10.TwoWorldViews:RomanticandClassical 11.OscarNiemeyer 12.AgainstObscurity 13.WhyDoScandinaviansHaveSuchImpeccableTasteinInteriorDesign? 14.ArtforArt'sSake 15.WhyWeNeedtoCreateaHome 16.WhyYouShouldNeverSay:‘BeautyLiesintheEyeoftheBeholder’ 17.AndreaPalladio 18.WhyDesignMatters 19.OnGoodandBadTaste 20.OnHowtoMakeanAttractiveCity 21.ArtasTherapy 22.OnUglinessandtheHousingCrisis 23.JohannesVermeer 24.CasparDavidFriedrich 25.HenriMatisse 26.EdwardHopper 27.LouisKahn 28.CocoChanel 29.JaneJacobs 30.CyTwombly 31.AndyWarhol 32.DieterRams 33.ATherapeuticApproachtoArt 34.ChristoandJeanne-Claude  35.OntheImportanceofDrawing 36.OnArtasaReminder 37.OnthePriceofArtWorks 38.SecularChapels 39.RelativismandUrbanPlanning 40.WhatArtMuseumsShouldBeFor 41.OnFakesandOriginals 42.TheMuseumGiftShop Culture 01.WhatRothko'sArtTeachesUsAboutSuffering 02.TheValueofReadingThingsWeDisagreewith 03.EasterforAtheists 04.TheLifeHouse 05.WhyPhilosophyShouldBecomeMoreLikePopMusic 06.WhyStoicismContinuestoMatter 07.TheSchoolofLife:WhatWeBelieve 08.CulturalMining 09.Lego–theMovies 10.Philosophy–theMovies 11.HistoryofIdeas–theMovies 12.Sociology–theMovies 13.PoliticalTheory–theMovies 14.Psychotherapy–theMovies 15.GreekPhilosophy–theMovies 16.EasternPhilosophy–theMovies 17.Art–theMovies 18.OnAphorisms 19.WhatComesAfterReligion? 20.TheSeriousBusinessofClothes 21.WhatIsthePointoftheHumanities? 22.WhyMusicWorks 23.TheImportanceofMusic 24.TheImportanceofBooks 25.WhatIsComedyFor? 26.WhatIsPhilosophyFor? 27.WhatIsArtFor? 28.WhatIsHistoryFor? 29.WhatIsPsychotherapyFor? 30.WhatIsLiteratureFor? 31.TheJoysofSport EasternPhilosophy 01.RiceorWheat?TheDifferenceBetweenEasternandWesternCultures 02.EasternvsWesternViewsofHappiness 03.FourGreatIdeasfromHinduism 04.ZenBuddhismandFireflies 05.SixIdeasfromEasternPhilosophy 06.WuWei–DoingNothing無爲 07.Kintsugi金継ぎ 08.Buddha 09.LaoTzu 10.Confucius 11.SennoRikyū 12.MatsuoBasho 13.MonoNoAware 14.GuanYin 15.Gongshi 16.WuWei 17.Kintsugi 18.Yinshi 19.WhysoManyLovethePhilosophyoftheEast-andsoFewThatoftheWest Food 01.OnLuxuryandSadness 02.OnNotBeingAbleToCookVeryWell 03.FoodasTherapy 04.WhatWeReallyLiketoEatWhenNoOneisLooking 05.WhatMealMightSuitMyMood?Questionnaire Literature 01.HowtoReadFewerBooks 02.TheDownfallofOscarWilde 03.WhatVoltaireMeantby'OneMustCultivateOne'sOwnGarden' 04.JamesBaldwin 05.CamusandThePlague 06.JohannWolfgangvonGoethe 07.CharlesDickens  08.GustaveFlaubert 09.FyodorDostoevsky 10.MarcelProust 11.BooksasTherapy 12.JaneAusten 13.LeoTolstoy 14.VirginiaWoolf 15.JamesJoyce PoliticalTheory 01.Machiavelli'sAdviceforNiceGuys 02.NiccolòMachiavelli 03.ThomasHobbes 04.Jean-JacquesRousseau 05.AdamSmith 06.KarlMarx 07.JohnRuskin 08.HenryDavidThoreau 09.ThoreauandCivilDisobedience 10.MatthewArnold 11.WilliamMorris 12.FriedrichHayek 13.JohnRawls Psychotherapy 01.Freud'sPorcupine 02.HowMentalIllnessImpactsOurBodies 03.HowtheModernWorldMakesUsMentallyIll 04.TwentyKeyConceptsfromPsychotherapy 05.WhyPsychotherapyWorks 06.TheTrueandtheFalseSelf 07.WhatHappensinPsychotherapy?FourCaseStudies 08.TheProblemofPsychologicalAsymmetry 09.FreudonSublimation 10.SigmundFreud 11.AnnaFreud 12.MelanieKlein 13.DonaldWinnicott 14.JohnBowlby  15.AShortDictionaryofPsychoanalysis 16.JacquesLacan SmallPleasures 01.SunWorship 02.TheImportanceofDancingLikeanIdiot 03.WalkingintheWoods 04.GettingMoreSeriousaboutPleasure 05.OnGoingtotheZoo 06.TheFishShop 07.OnSmallIslands 08.OnStars 09.OnGrandmothers 10.UpatDawn 11.OnCrimesintheNewspapers 12.DrivingontheMotorwayatNight 13.OnSundayMornings 14.AFavouriteOldJumper 15.HoldingHandswithaSmallChild 16.FeelingatHomeintheSea 17.TheBookThatUnderstandsYou 18.OldPhotosofOne’sParents 19.WhisperinginBedintheDark 20.OnFeelingThatSomeoneElseisSoWrong 21.TheFirstDayofFeelingWellAgain 22.Figs Sociology 01.St.Benedict  02.AlexisdeTocqueville  03.AugusteComte 04.MaxWeber 05.EmileDurkheim 06.MargaretMead 07.TheodorAdorno 08.RachelCarson Travel 01.TheWisdomofIslamicGardens 02.AWorldWithoutAirTravel 03.WalkingintheWoods 04.WhyWeArgueinParadise 05.TheAdvantagesofStayingatHome 06.TheWisdomofNature 07.TheHolidaysWhenYou'reFeelingMentallyUnwell 08.TheShortestJourney:OnGoingforaWalkaroundtheBlock 09.HowtoSpendaFewDaysinParis 10.WhyGermansCanSayThingsNoOneElseCan 11.TravelasTherapy-anIntroduction 12.MonumentValley,USA-forCalm 13.Cornershop,Kanagawaken,Yokohama-forShyness 14.CafedeZaak,Utrecht-forSexEducation 15.CapriHotel,ChangiAirport,Singapore-forThinking 16.EastownTheatre,Detroit-forPerspective 17.PumpingStation,IslaMayor,Seville-forSnobbery 18.Comuna13,SanJavier,Medellin,Colombia-forDissatisfaction 19.GlenparkRoad,Birmingham-forBoredom 20.TheWesternDesert,Australia–forHumility 21.Lunch,30,000Feet–forComfort 22.HeathrowAirport,London–forAwe 23.PefkosBeach,Rhodes-forAnxiety WesternPhilosophy 01.Aristotle 02.BaruchSpinoza 03.ArthurSchopenhauer 04.BlaisePascal 05.SixIdeasfromWesternPhilosophy 06.IntroductiontoTheCurriculum 07.Plato 08.TheStoics 09.Epicurus 10.Augustine 11.BoethiusandTheConsolationofPhilosophy 12.ThomasAquinas 13.MicheldeMontaigne 14.LaRochefoucauld 15.Voltaire 16.DavidHume 17.ImmanuelKant 18.Hegel 19.HegelKnewThereWouldBeDaysLikeThese 20.RalphWaldoEmerson 21.Nietzsche 22.Nietzsche,RegretandAmorFati 23.NietzscheandEnvy 24.MartinHeidegger 25.LudwigWittgenstein 26.Jean-PaulSartre 27.AlbertCamus 28.MichelFoucault 29.JacquesDerrida 30.E.M.Cioran Relationships Affairs 01.WhattoSayinResponsetoanAffair 02.HowToHandletheDesireforAffairs? 03.WhatDoesItTakeToBeGoodatAffairs? 04.WhatIdeallyHappensWhenAnAffairisDiscovered? 05.WhenDoesAnAffairBegin?  06.ABriefHistoryofAffairs 07.HowtoReducetheRiskofAffairs 08.TheRoleofSexinAffairs 09.HowToSpotACoupleThatMightBeHeadedForAnAffair 10.HowCanAnAffairHelpAMarriage? 11.ThePleasuresofAffairs 12.ThePainsofAffairs 13.TheMeaningofInfidelity 14.LoyaltyandAdultery 15.WhyPeopleHaveAffairs:DistanceandCloseness BreakingUp&Heartbreak 01.There'sNothingWrongwithBeingonYourOwn 02.TheWrongIdeaofaBaddie 03.FindingClosureAfteraBreakup 04.ShouldSexEverBeaReasontoBreakUp? 05.WhenaRelationshipFails,WhoRejectedWhom? 06.TheFearofNotBeingAbletoCopePracticallyWithoutaPartner 07.TheFearofEndingaRelationship 08.WhatAbouttheChildrenWhenDivorceisontheCards? 09.WhatIfIJustRepeattheSameMistakesNextTime? 10.AreMyExpectationsTooHigh? 11.OvercomingNostalgiaforaPastRelationship 12.TheFeelingofBeingBackinLovewiththePersonYou'reAbouttoLeave 13.TheCapacitytoGiveuponPeople 14.ForThoseStuckinaRelationship 15.10IdeasforPeopleAfraidtoExitaRelationship 16.PeopleWhoWanttoOwnUs-butNotNourishUs 17.TheHardestPersonintheWorldtoBreakupWith 18.ANon-TragicViewofBreakingUp 19.AGuidetoBreakingUp 20.HowtoRejectSomeoneKindly 21.WhenSomeoneWeLoveHasDied 22.WhyDidTheyLeaveUs? 23.HowtoBreakUp 24.HowWeCanHaveOurHeartsBrokenEvenThoughNoOneHasLeftUs 25.ThePsychologyofOurExes 26.'UnfairDismissal'inLove 27.HowNottoBeTorturedByaLoveRival 28.CopingwithBetrayal 29.CanExesbeFriends? 30.HowtoGetOverSomeone 31.WhyTrueLoveDoesn’tHavetoLastForever 32.HowtoGetOveraRejection 33.HowtoEndaRelationship 34.StayorLeave? 35.HowtoGetDivorced 36.OnForgettingLovers 37.HowNottoBreakUpwithSomeone Compatibility 01.WhyWeMustExplainOurOwnNeeds 02.HowGoodAreYouatCommunicationinLove?Questionnaire 03.WhySomeCouplesLast—andSomeDon't 04.TheDifferenceBetweenFragileandStrongCouples 05.WhatRelationshipsShouldReallyBeAbout 06.TheRealReasonWhyCouplesBreakUp 07.6ReasonsWeChooseBadlyinLove 08.CanPeopleChange? 09.KonradLorenz&WhyYouChoosethePartnersYouChoose 10.TheStrangerYouLiveWith 11.TheAttachmentStyleQuestionnaire 12.WhyAnxiousandAvoidantPartnersFindItHardtoLeaveOneAnother 13.TheChallengesofAnxious-AvoidantRelationships—CanCouplesWithDifferentAttachmentStylesWork? 14.OnRescueFantasies 15.HowtoCopewithanAvoidantPartner 16.WhatIsYourAttachmentStyle? 17.'IWillNeverFindtheRightPartner' 18.TooCloseorTooDistant:HowWeStandinRelationships 19.HowAreYouDifficulttoLivewith? 20.WhyWe'reCompelledtoLoveDifficultPeople 21.WhyYourLoverisVeryDamaged-andAnnoying 22.WhyTinyThingsaboutOurPartnersDriveUsMad 23.HowtoLoveUglyPeople 24.WhyPolyamoryProbablyWon’tWorkforYou 25.WhyWeGoColdonOurPartners 26.AnInstructionManualtoOneself 27.TheTerrorsofBeingLoved 28.ThePartnerasChildTheory 29.AttachmentStyleQuestionnaire 30.OntheFearofIntimacy 31.MeettheParents 32.OnFindingthe'Right'Person 33.IfYouLovedMe,YouWouldn'tWanttoChangeMe 34.TheProblemsofCloseness Conflicts 01.OnGaslighting 02.WhyWePlayGamesinLove 03.On'Rupture'and'Repair' 04.Whyit'sOKtoWantaPartnertoChange 05.OnArguingMoreNakedly 06.DoYouStillLoveMe? 07.WhyWeNeedtoFeelHeard 08.FiveQuestionstoAskofBadBehaviour 09.TheArtofComplaining 10.TheChallengesofCommunication 11.HowToHaveFewerBitterArgumentsinLove 12.TheArgumentsWeHaveFromGuilt 13.Attention-SeekingArguments 14.WhenOurPartnersAreBeingExcessivelyLogical 15.WhenWeTellOurPartnersThatWeAreNormalandTheyAreStrange 16.WhenYourPartnerTriestoStopYouGrowing 17.WhenYourPartnerStartsCryingHystericallyDuringanArgument 18.WhyWeSometimesSetOuttoShatterOurLover'sGoodMood 19.WhyPeopleGetDefensiveinRelationships 20.AHistoryofArguments 21.TheFightsWhenThereIsNoSex 22.WhatWeMightLearninCouplesTherapy 23.OntheTendencytoLoveandHateExcessively 24.AnAlternativetoBeingControlling 25.WhyWeShouldNotSilentlySufferFromALackofTouchinLove 26.WhyAngerHasaPlaceinLove 27.TheImportanceofRelationshipCounselling 28.HowtoArgueinRelationships 29.WhyWe(Sometimes)HopethePeopleWeLoveMightDie 30.BetheChangeYouWantToSee 31.IWishIWasStillSingle 32.LoveandSulking 33.OnBeingUnintentionallyHurt 34.TheSecretProblemsofOtherCouples 35.OntheDangersofBeingTooDefensive 36.OnHowtoDefuseanArgument 37.HowtoSaveLovewithPessimism 38.How'Transference'MakesYouHardtoLiveWith 39.WhyYouResentYourPartner 40.WhyItIsAlwaysYourPartner'sFault 41.IfItWasn'tforYou... 42.WhyYouAreSoAnnoyedByWhatYouOnceAdmired 43.WhyYou’re(Probably)NotaGreatCommunicator Dating 01.WhyDatingAppsWon'tHelpYouFindLove 02.BeingHonestonaDate 03.WhyHaven'tTheyCalled-andtheRorschachTest 04.DatingWhenYou'veHadaBadChildhood 05.VarietiesofMadnessCommonlyMetwithOnDates 06.HowtoSeducewithConfidence 07.ABriefHistoryofDating 08.HowtoProveAttractivetoSomeoneonaDate 09.ExistentialismandDating 10.WhattoTalkAboutonaDate 11.WhattoEatandDrinkonaDate 12.HowtoSeduceSomeoneonaDate 13.HowNottoThinkonaDate FindingLove 01.WhyWeKeepChoosingBadPartners 02.CelebrityCrushes 03.RomanticMasochism 04.WhatDoYouLoveMeFor? 05.IfLoveNeverCame 06.OntheMadnessandCharmofCrushes 07.WhyOnlytheHappySingleFindTrueLove 08.ShouldWePlayItCoolWhenWeLikeSomeone? 09.InPraiseofUnrequitedLove 10.TwoReasonsWhyYouMightStillBeSingle 11.HowWeChooseaPartner 12.WhyFlirtingMatters 13.Why,OnceYouUnderstandLove,YouCouldLoveAnyone 14.MateSelection 15.ReasonstoRemainSingle 16.HowtoEnjoyaNewRelationship Marriage 01.AlternativestoRomanticMonogamy 02.TwentyIdeasonMarriage 03.ForMomentsofMaritalCrisis 04.WhattoDoonYourWeddingNight 05.WhoShouldYouInvitetoYourWedding? 06.PragmaticReasonsforGettingMarried 07.TheStandardMarriageandItsSevenAlternatives 08.UtopianMarriage 09.WhenIsOneReadytoGetMarried? 10.OntheContinuingRelevanceofMarriage 11.OnMarryingtheWrongPerson—9ReasonsWeWillRegretGettingMarried Marriage|Work MatureLove 01.WhatTeddyBearsTeachUsAboutLove 02.WhatRoleDoYouPlayinYourRelationship? 03.WhyWeShouldBe'Babyish'inLove 04.TheMaturityofRegression 05.TheBenefitsofInsecurityinLove 06.TakingthePressureoffLove 07.APledgeforLovers 08.AProjectionExerciseforCouples 09.ANewRitual:TheMorningandEveningKiss 10.CanOurPhonesSolveOurLoveLives? 11.IfWe'reAllBadatLove,Shouldn'tWeChangeOurDefinitionofNormality? 12.OtherPeople'sRelationships 13.HowtoCopewithanAvoidantPartner 14.ThePleasureofReadingTogetherinBed 15.22QuestionstoReigniteLove 16.TheWisdomofRomanticCompromise 17.HowtoComplain 18.HowWeNeedtoKeepGrowingUp 19.TeachingandLove 20.LoveandSelf-Love 21.HumourinLove 22.TheAdvantagesofLong-DistanceLove 23.InPraiseofHugs 24.WhyAffectionateTeasingisKindandNecessary 25.TheCoupleCourtroomGame 26.GettingoveraRow 27.KeepingSecretsinRelationships 28.ALover'sGuidetoSulking 29.ArtificialConversations 30.OntheRoleofStoriesinLove 31.OntheHardestJobintheWorld 32.OntheBeloved'sWrist Parenting 01.WhatMakesaGoodParent?AChecklist 02.OntheCuriosityofChildren 03.HowtoLendaChildConfidence 04.TheImportanceofPlay 05.WhyChildrenNeedanEmotionalEducation 06.CopingwithOne'sParents 07.AreChildrenforMe? 08.HowParentsMightLetTheirChildrenKnowofTheirIssues 09.HowWeCravetoBeSoothed 10.EscapingtheShadowofaParent 11.OnBeingAngrywithaParent 12.WhatYouMightWanttoTellYourChildAboutHomework 13.OnApologisingtoYourChild 14.TeachingChildrenaboutRelationships 15.HowShouldaParentLovetheirChild? 16.Whenpeoplepleasersbecomeparents-andneedtosay'no' 17.OntheSweetnessofChildren 18.ListeningtoChildren 19.WhetherornottohaveChildren 20.TheChildrenofSnobs 21.WhyGoodParentsHaveNaughtyChildren 22.TheJoysandSorrowsofParenting 23.TheSignificanceofParenthood 24.WhyFamilyMatters 25.ParentingandWorking 26.OnChildren'sArt 27.WhatBabiesCanTeachUs 28.Why–WhenItComestoChildren–LoveMayNotBeEnough Romanticism 01.WhyDoIFeelSoLonely? 02.PygmalionandyourLovelife 03.HowtoLove 04.WhatisLove? 05.OnRomanticism 06.AShortHistoryofLove 07.TheDefinitionofLove 08.WhyWeNeedtheAncientGreekVocabularyofLove 09.TheCureforLove 10.WhyWeNeedtoSpeakofLoveinPublic 11.HowRomanticismRuinedLove 12.OurMostRomanticMoments 13.LovingandBeingLoved 14.RomanticRealism 15.OnBeingRomanticorClassical Sex 01.TheOngoingComplexitiesofOurIntimateLives 02.OnPost-CoitalMelancholy 03.DesireandIntimacy 04.WhatMakesaPersonAttractive? 05.HowtoTalkAboutYourSexualFantasy 06.TheProblemofSexualShame 07.WhoInitiatesSex:andWhyItMattersSoMuch 08.OnStillBeingaVirgin 09.LoveandSex 10.ImpotenceandRespect 11.SexualNon-Liberation 12.TheExcitementofKissing 13.TheAppealofOutdoorSex 14.TheSexualFantasiesofOthers 15.OnArtandMasturbation 16.ThePsychologyofCross-Dressing 17.TheFearofBeingBadinBed 18.TheSex-StarvedRelationship 19.HowtoStartHavingSexAgain 20.SexualLiberation 21.ThePoignancyofOldPornography 22.OnPornAddiction 23.ABriefPhilosophyofOralSex 24.OnBeingaSleazebag 25.WhyWeGoOffSex 26.ABriefTheoryofSexualExcitement Relationships|Self-Knowledge Trauma&Childhood 01.TraumaandForgetting Self-Knowledge Behaviours 01.WhyWeAreAllAddicts 02.Straightforwardvs.ComplicatedPeople 03.ReasonstoGiveUponPerfection 04.TheNeedforaCry 05.OnConfinement 06.TheImportanceofSingingBadly 07.YouDon'tNeedPermission 08.OnFeelingStuck 09.AmIParanoid? 10.LearningtoBeMoreSelfish 11.LearningHowtoBeAngry 12.WhyWe'reAllLiars 13.AreYouaMasochist? 14.HowBadlyAdaptedWeAretoLifeonEarth 15.HowWePrefertoActRatherThanThink 16.HowtoLiveMoreWiselyAroundOurPhones 17.OnDreaming 18.TheNeedtobeAlone 19.OntheRemarkableNeedtoSpeak 20.ThinkingTooMuch;andThinkingTooLittle 21.OnNagging 22.ThePreventionofSuicide 23.OnGettinganEarlyNight 24.WhyWeEatTooMuch 25.OnTakingDrugs 26.OnPerfectionism 27.OnProcrastination Behaviours|Work EmotionalSkills 01.TheBenefitsofForgetfulness 02.HowtoTakeCriticism 03.AMoreSpontaneousLife 04.OnSelf-Assertion 05.TheBenefitofAnalogies 06.WhyWeNeedMomentsofMadThinking 07.TheTaskofTurningVagueThoughtsintoMorePreciseOnes 08.HowtoCatchYourOwnThoughts 09.WhyOurBestThoughtsComeToUsintheShower 10.Calm 11.Confidence 12.WhyWeShouldTrytoBecomeBetterNarcissists 13.WhyWeRequirePoorMemoriesToSurvive 14.TheImportanceofConfession 15.HowEmotionallyHealthyAreYou? 16.WhatIsAnEmotionallyHealthyChildhood? 17.UnprocessedEmotion 18.HowtoBeaGenius 19.OnResilience 20.HowtoDecide 21.WhyItShouldBeGlamoroustoChangeYourMind 22.HowtoMakeMoreofOurMemories 23.What’sWrongwithNeedyPeople 24.EmotionalEducation:AnIntroduction 25.PhilosophicalMeditation 26.Honesty 27.Self-Love 28.EmotionalScepticism 29.Politeness 30.Charity 31.Charm 32.Love-as-Generosity 33.Comforting 34.EmotionalTranslation 35.Humour 36.OnPessimism 37.TheProblemwithCynicism 38.OnKeepingGoing 39.Closeness 40.OnHigherConsciousness 41.OnExercisingtheMind 42.AuthenticWork 43.TheSorrowsofWork 44.CulturalConsolation 45.Appreciation 46.CheerfulDespair Fear&Insecurity 01.TheUpsidesofBeingIll 02.TheRootsofParanoia 03.LonelinessasaSignofDepth 04.HowSocialMediaAffectsOurSelf-Worth 05.HowtoBeBeautiful 06.TryingtoBeKindertoOurselves 07.TheRoleofLoveinMentalHealth 08.TraumaandFearfulness 09.OnDespairandtheImagination 10.OnBeingAbletoDefendOneself 11.TheFearofDeath 12.IAmNotMyBody 13.TheProblemsofBeingVeryBeautiful 14.6ReasonsNottoWorryWhattheNeighboursThink 15.AmIFat?AnAnswerfromHistory 16.TheProblemofShame 17.OnFeelingUgly 18.TheParticularBeautyofUnhappy-LookingPeople 19.HowNottoBecomeaConspiracyTheorist 20.TheTerrorofa‘No’ 21.OnBeingHated 22.TheOriginsofEverydayNastiness 23.TheWeaknessofStrengthTheory 24.OnSelf-Sabotage 25.FOMO:FearOfMissingOut 26.OnaSenseofSinfulness Fulfilment 01.OnFeelingRatherThanThinking 02.HowtoBeInteresting 03.AmITooClever? 04.AMoreSelf-AcceptingLife 05.'LetHimWhoIsWithoutSinCasttheFirstStone' 06.TheRootsofLoneliness 07.SmallActsofLiberation 08.OvercomingtheNeedtoBeExceptional 09.TheFearofHappiness 10.TheTruthMayAlreadyBeInsideUs 11.WhatIstheMeaningofLife? 12.TheDesiretoWrite 13.AreIntelligentPeopleMoreLonely? 14.ABetterWordthanHappiness:Eudaimonia 15.TheMeaningofLife 16.OurSecretFantasies 17.WhyWe’reFatedtoBeLonely(ButThat’sOK) 18.GoodEnoughisGoodEnough 19.AnUpdatedTenCommandments 20.ASelf-CompassionExercise 21.HowtoBecomeaBetterPerson 22.OnResolutions 23.OnFinalThings Growth&Maturity 01.Self-Forgiveness 02.WhyWeMustHaveDoneBadtoBeGood 03.FindingtheCouragetoBeOurselves 04.WhatRegretCanTeachUs 05.TheImportanceofAdolescence 06.HowtoLoveDifficultPeople 07.OnFallingMentallyIll 08.SplittingHumanityintoSaintsandSinners 09.BecomingFree 10.LearningtoListentotheAdultInsideUs 11.TheUltimateTestofEmotionalMaturity 12.CanPeopleChange? 13.WhenHomeisNotHome... 14.LearningtoLayDownBoundaries 15.YouCouldFinallyLeaveSchool! 16.WhenDoYouKnowYouAreEmotionallyMature?26SignsofEmotionalMaturity 17.HowtoLengthenYourLife 18.WeOnlyLearnIfWeRepeat 19.TheDrivetoKeepGrowingEmotionally 20.OnBittersweetMemories 21.SmallTriumphsoftheMentallyUnwell 22.TheImportanceofAtonement 23.HowToBeaMummy'sBoy 24.OnConsolation 25.TheInnerIdiot 26.TheDangersoftheGoodChild 27.WhyNoneofUsareReally'Sinners' 28.HowWeNeedtoKeepGrowingUp 29.AreHumansStillEvolving? 30.OnLosers–andTragicHeroes 31.OntheSeriousRoleofStuffedAnimals 32.WhySelf-HelpBooksMatter Growth&Maturity|Uncategorised KnowYourself 01.HowtoFigureOutWhatYouReally,ReallyThink 02.WhyYouShouldKeepaJournal 03.InPraiseofIntrospection 04.WhatBrainScansRevealAboutOurMinds 05.WhatisMentalHealth? 06.TheOneQuestionYouNeedtoAsktoKnowWhetherYou'reaGoodPerson 07.EightRulesofTheSchoolofLife 08.NoOneCares 09.TheHighPriceWePayforOurFearofBeingAlone 10.5SignsofEmotionalImmaturity 11.OnKnowingWhoOneIs 12.WhySelf-AnalysisWorks 13.KnowingThingsIntellectuallyvs.KnowingThemEmotionally 14.TheNovelWeReallyNeedToReadNext 15.IsFreeWillorDeterminismCorrect? 16.EmotionalIdentity 17.KnowYourself—SocratesandHowtoDevelopSelf-Knowledge 18.Self-KnowledgeQuiz 19.OnBeingVeryNormal KnowYourself|Self-Knowledge Melancholy 01.WhyDoBadThingsAlwaysHappentoMe? 02.WhyWeEnjoytheSufferingofOthers 03.TheTragedyofBirth 04.WhatRothko'sArtTeachesUsAboutSuffering 05.OurTragicCondition 06.TheMelancholyCharmofLonelyTravellingPlaces 07.NostalgiaforReligion 08.PartiesandMelancholy 09.WhyVeryBeautifulScenesCanMakeUsSoMelancholy 10.OnOldPhotosofOneself 11.AreIntelligentPeopleMoreMelancholic? 12.StrangersandMelancholy 13.OnPost-CoitalMelancholy 14.SexandMelancholy 15.AstronomyandMelancholy 16.NostalgiafortheWomb 17.MelancholyandtheFeelingofBeingSuperfluous 18.Pills&Melancholy 19.Melancholy:thebestkindofDespair 20.OnMelancholy Mood 01.WhyYouMayBeExperiencingaMentalMidwinter 02.LivingLong-TermwithMentalIllness 03.TheRoleofSleepinMentalHealth 04.TheRoleofPillsinMentalHealth 05.MentalIllnessandAcceptance 06.MentalIllnessand'ReasonstoLive' 07.TamingaPitilessInnerCritic 08.ReasonstoGiveUponHumanBeings 09.TheWindowofTolerance 10.OnRealisingOneMightBeanIntrovert 11.OurRighttobeMiserable 12.HowtoManageOne'sMoods 13.OnLivinginaMoreLight-HeartedWay 14.OnDislikingOneself 15.OfCourseWeMessUp! 16.LearningtoListentoOne'sOwnBoredom 17.OnDepression 18.InPraiseoftheMelancholyChild 19.WhyWeMayBeAngryRatherThanSad 20.OnNotBeingintheMoment 21.'Pure'OCD-andIntrusiveThoughts 22.TwentyMoods 23.HowtheRightWordsHelpUstoFeeltheRightThings 24.TheSecretOptimismofAngryPeople 25.OnFeelingDepressed 26.TheDifficultyofBeinginthePresent 27.OnBeingOutofTouchwithOne'sFeelings 28.OurSecretThoughts 29.ThePsychologyofColour 30.OnSelf-Pity 31.OnIrritability 32.OnAnger 33.OntheThingsthatMakeAdultsCry 34.Detachment Questionnaires 01.HowGoodAreYouatCommunicationinLove?Questionnaire 02.HowProneMightYouBeToInsomnia?Questionnaire 03.HowReadyMightYouBeforTherapy?Questionnaire 04.TheAttachmentStyleQuestionnaire Trauma&Childhood 01.HowtoGetYourParentsOutofYourHead 02.WhyParentsBullyTheirChildren 03.OnProjection 04.Self-Archaeology 05.It'sNotYourFault 06.IfOurParentsNeverListened 07.WhyEverythingRelatestoYourChildhood 08.WhyThoseWhoShouldLoveUsCanHurtUs 09.TheUpsidesofHavingaMentalBreakdown 10.HowPerfectionismMakesUsIll 11.HowWeShouldHaveBeenLoved 12.Self-HatredandHigh-Achievement 13.ASelf-HatredAudit 14.HowMentalIllnessImpactsOurBodies 15.TwoReasonsWhyPeopleEndupParentingBadly 16.WhatisEmotionalNeglect? 17.HowUnlovingParentscanGenerateSelf-HatingChildren 18.HowMentalIllnessClosesDownOurMinds 19.TraumaandEMDRTherapy 20.HowtoFightoffYourInnerCritic 21.TheOneSubjectYouReallyNeedtoStudy:YourOwnChildhood 22.SharingOurEarlyWounds 23.TraumaandHowtoOvercomeIt 24.WhyWe'reAllMessedUpByOurChildhoods 25.TheGoldenChildSyndrome 26.TheImportanceofBeinganUnhappyTeenager 27.HowWeGetDamagedbyEmotionalNeglect 28.TheSecretsofaPrivilegedChildhood 29.WhatWeOwetothePeopleWhoLovedUsinChildhood 30.CriticismWhenYou'veHadaBadChildhood 31.OnSufferinginSilence 32.HowaMessedupChildhoodAffectsYouinAdulthood 33.DaddyIssues 34.TheNon-RewritableDisc:theFatefulImpactofChildhood 35.OntheLongingforMaternalTenderness Self-Knowledge|Leisure Psychotherapy 01.WhyWeShouldn'tFearAsylums 02.WhatYouNeedtoKnowAboutPsychotherapy 03.WhatisPsychedelicTherapy? Sociability Communication 01.HowWeCanHurtWithoutThinking 02.LeaningintoVulnerability 03.HowtoBecomeSomeonePeopleWillConfidein 04.HowToWriteAnEffectiveThankYouLetter 05.HowtoBeaGoodListener 06.HowtoCommentOnline 07.ListeningasEditing 08.TheImportanceofFlattery 09.HowtoNarrateYourLifeStory 10.TheArtofListening 11.HowtoNarrateYourDreams 12.HowtoTalkAboutYourself 13.Communication 14.HowtoBeaGoodTeacher 15.OnHowtoDisagree 16.OntheArtofConversation Confidence 01.StopBeingSoNice 02.TheOriginsofShyness 03.OnFriendlinesstoStrangers 04.WhattoDoatPartiesIfYouHateSmallTalk 05.HowtoApproachStrangersatAParty 06.HowtoBeComfortableonYourOwninPublic 07.Akrasia-orWhyWeDon'tDoWhatWeBelieve 08.WhyWeThinkSoMuchaboutOurHair 09.AphorismsonConfidence 10.HowKnowledgeofDifficultiesLendsConfidence 11.HowThinkingYou’reanIdiotLendsConfidence 12.HowtoOvercomeShyness 13.TheMind-BodyProblem 14.TheImpostorSyndrome 15.OntheOriginsofConfidence 16.Self-Esteem 17.OnConfidence 18.OnNotLikingtheWayOneLooks Friendship 01.WhyMisfitsMakeGreatFriends 02.HowtoHandleanEnviousFriend 03.LonelinessasaSignofDepth 04.CompanionshipandMentalHealth 05.HowOftenDoWeNeedtoGotoParties? 06.VirtualDinners:ConversationMenus 07.TheCleaningParty 08.OnTalkingHorizontally 09.DinnerTableOrchestra 10.OnSofaJumping 11.OnStudyingSomeoneElse'sHands 12.WhatWomenandMenMayLearnfromOneAnotherWhenTheyareJustFriends 13.HowtoSay'ILoveYou'toaFriend 14.HowtoEndaFriendship 15.WhatCanStoptheLoneliness? 16.WhyMenAreSoBadatFriendship 17.WhatWouldAnIdealFriendBeLike? 18.'Couldn'tWeJustBeFriends?' 19.OnAcquiringanEnemy 20.WhyOldFriendsMatter 21.WhyNottoPanicaboutEnemies 22.WhatIsthePurposeofFriendship? 23.FriendshipandVulnerability 24.OnSocksandFriendship 25.TheTeasingofOldFriends SocialVirtues 01.TheOriginsofPeoplePleasing 02.TheEyesofLove 03.KindnessIsn'tWeakness 04.WhyWe'reAllCapableofDamagingOthers 05.RembrandtasaGuidetoKindness 06.WhatLoveReallyIs–andWhyItMatters 07.TheNeedforKindness 08.6ReasonsNottoWorryWhattheNeighboursThink 09.WhattoDoWhenaStrangerAnnoysYou 10.HowtoChooseAGoodPresent 11.HowtoBeaGoodGuest 12.HowToMakePeopleFeelGoodaboutThemselves 13.HowToTellWhenYouAreBeingABore 14.WhatIsEmpathy? 15.HowNottoRant 16.HowNottoBeBoring 17.OnEggsandCompassion 18.HowtoBecomeanAdult 19.People-Pleasing:andHowtoOvercomeIt 20.WhyTrulySociablePeopleHateParties 21.HowtoBeDiplomatic 22.SaneInsanity 23.CharityofInterpretation 24.HowtoBeaGoodTeacher 25.TheSolutiontoClumsiness 26.HowtoBeaMan 27.PoliticalCorrectnessvs.Politeness 28.AphorismsonKindness 29.WhyWeDon’tReallyWanttoBeNice 30.TheCharmofVulnerability 31.TheUltimateTestofYourSocialSkills 32.HowtoBeOpen-Minded 33.WhyKindPeopleAlwaysLie 34.HowtoBeWarm 35.TheProblemofOver-Friendliness 36.HowtoForgive 37.WhyWe’reFatedtoBeLonely(ButThat’sOK) 38.HowtoCopewithSnobbery 39.OnCharm 40.OnBeingKind 41.OnGratitude 42.OnForgiveness 43.OnCharity 44.OnWisdom SocialVirtues|Self-Knowledge SocialVirtues|Work Uncategorised Work BusinessSkills 01.HowtoFireSomeone 02.DiplomacyattheOffice 03.HowtoTellaColleagueTheirBreathSmells 04.HowtoScrewUpatWork 05.InPraiseofTeamwork 06.HowtoBecomeanEntrepreneur 07.TheNeedforEloquence 08.TheNatureandCausesofProcrastination 09.InPraiseofNetworking 10.WhyCreativityisTooImportanttoBeLefttoArtists 11.HowtoSurviveBureaucracy 12.MachismoandManagement 13.WhatArtCanTeachBusinessAboutBeingFussy 14.OnNovelistsandManuals 15.HowNottoLetWorkExplodeYourLife 16.HowtoSell 17.Innovation,EmpathyandIntrospection 18.InnovationandCreativity 19.InnovationandScienceFiction 20.TheAcceptanceofChange 21.TheCollaborativeVirtues 22.TowardsBetterCollaboration 23.HowToMakeEfficiencyaHabit 24.OnRaisingthePrestigeof'Details' 25.Monasticism&HowtoAvoidDistraction 26.HowtoDaretoBegin 27.OnMeaning–andMotivation 28.ThePsychologicalObstaclesHoldingEmployeesBack 29.OnFeedback 30.HowtoBetterUnderstandCustomers 31.OnBoundedandUnboundedTasks Capitalism 01.WhatShouldTrulyMotivateUsatWork 02.NatureasaCurefortheSicknessofModernTimes 03.TheDifficultiesofWork-LifeBalance 04.TheChallengesofModernity 05.BusinessesforLove;BusinessesforMoney 06.CountriesforLosers;CountriesforWinners 07.TowardsaSolutiontoInequality 08.FreeTrade-orProtectionism? 09.ShouldWeWorkonOurselves-orontheWorld? 10.WhyIsThereUnemployment? 11.ArtistsandSupermarketTycoons 12.BusinessandtheArts 13.SentimentalityinArt-andBusiness 14.HowtoMakeaCountryRich 15.FirstWorldProblems 16.OnDevotiontoCorporations 17.GoodvsClassicalEconomics 18.WhatIsaGoodBrand? 19.GoodEconomicMeasures:BeyondGDP 20.WhatGoodBusinessShouldBe 21.OntheFaultinessofOurEconomicIndicators 22.OntheDawnofCapitalism 23.UtopianCapitalism 24.OnPhilanthropy Capitalism|Work 01.WhoDeservesLove? Consumption&Need 01.OnEatingaFriend 02.IstheModernWorldToo'Materialistic'? 03.OnConsumerCapitalism 04.TheImportanceofMaslow'sPyramidofNeeds 05.HowtoLiveMoreWiselyAroundOurPhones 06.Moneyand'HigherThings' 07.WhyWeAreAllAddicts 08.WhyWeAreSoBadatShopping 09.BusinessandtheLadderofNeeds 10.ConsumerSelf-Knowledge 11."GivingCustomersWhatTheyWant" 12.TheEntrepreneurandtheArtist 13.WhatAdvertisingCanLearnfromArt 14.WhattheLuxurySectorDoesforUs 15.OnUsingSextoSell 16.UnderstandingBrandPromises 17.ConsumerEducation:OnLearningHowtoSpend 18.GoodMaterialism 19.WhyWeHateCheapThings 20.WhyWeContinuetoLoveExpensiveThings 21.WhyAdvertisingIssoAnnoying-butDoesn'tHavetoBe 22.OnGoodDemand 23.AdvertsKnowWhatWeWant-TheyJustCan'tSellIttous 24.OntheResponsibilityoftheConsumer 25.OnConsumptionandStatusAnxiety 26.OntheTrueDesiresoftheRich Consumption&Need|Uncategorised Consumption&Need|Work 01.WhattheVillasofDespotsTeachUsAboutPride GoodWork 01.HowtoBeOriginal 02.WhenAreWeTrulyProductive? 03.TheImportanceoftheSiesta 04.CareerTherapy 05.OnMeritocracy 06.TheVocationMyth 07.TheGoodSidesofWork 08.TheGoodOffice 09.TheEQOffice 10.GoodSalaries:WhatWeEarn-andWhatWe’reWorth 11.WhatGoodBusinessShouldBe 12.OnthePleasuresofWork GoodWork|Work Meaning 01.TheConceptofVoluntaryPoverty 02.TheDangersofHavingTooLittleToDo 03.HowCouldaWorkingLifeBeMeaningful? 04.OnLearningtoLiveDeeplyRatherthanBroadly 05.WhatTheyForgettoTeachYouatSchool 06.AuthenticWork 07.WhyWeNeedtoWork 08.HowWeCametoDesireaJobWeCouldLove 09.WhyWorkIsSoMuchEasierthanLove 10.WorkandMaturity 11.HowYourJobShapesYourIdentity 12.AuthenticWork Meaning|Self-Knowledge Meaning|Work Media&Technology 01.DoWeNeedtoReadtheNews? 02.OnGossip 03.HowtheMediaDamagesOurFaithinHumanity 04.WhyWeSecretlyLoveBadNews 05.CelebrityCrushes 06.OnSwitchingOfftheNews 07.We'veBeenHereBefore 08.InPraiseofBias 09.TheNewsfromWithout-andtheNewsfromWithin 10.HistoryasaCorrectivetoNews 11.EmotionalTechnology 12.What'sWrongwiththeMedia 13.OntheDangersoftheInternet 14.OnTakingDigitalSabbaths 15.OntheRoleofCensorship 16.OntheRoleofDisasters 17.OntheRoleofArtinNews 18.TragediesandOrdinaryLivesintheMedia 19.OntheFailuresofEconomicNews 20.OnHealthNews 21.WhatStateBroadcastersShouldDo 22.OnNewsandKindness 23.OntheRoleofCheerfulNews 24.OnManiacsandMurderers Politics&Government 01.TheUnitedStatesandHappiness 02.PoliticalEmotionalMaturity 03.OnFeelingOffended 04.AGuidetoGoodNationalism 05.WhyWeDo-AfterAll-CareaboutPolitics 06.WhySocratesHatedDemocracy 07.TheFragilityofGoodGovernment 08.Romanticvs.ClassicalVoters 09.AfricaafterIndependence Purpose 01.ShouldIFollowMyDreams? 02.HowtoRetireEarly 03.TheAgoniesofChoice 04.TheCreativeItch 05.BroadeningtheJobSearch 06.OurFamiliesandOurCareers 07.TheChallengesofChoosingaCareer 08.OnCareerCrises 09.TheOutput/InputConfusion 10.FindingaMission 11.HowtoServe 12.WhyWork-LifeBalanceisanIllusion 13.OnGratitude–andMotivation 14.HowtoFindFulfillingWork 15.OntheOriginsofMotivationatWork 16.OnBecominganEntrepreneur 17.OnBeinganUnemployedArtsGraduate SorrowsofWork 01.OnSmallTalkattheOffice 02.OnFallingApartattheOffice 03.TheSorrowsofCompetition 04.WhatIsThatSundayEveningFeeling? 05.HowParentsGetintheWayofOurCareerPlans 06.WhyModernWorkIsSoBoring 07.WhyPessimismistheKeytoGoodGovernment 08.TheSorrowsofColleagues 09.TheSorrowsofCommercialisation 10.TheSorrowsofStandardisation 11.ConfidenceintheSystem 12.JobMonogamy 13.TheDutyTrap 14.ThePerfectionistTrap 15.OnProfessionalFailure 16.NastyBusinesses 17.TheJobInvestmentTrap 18.HowYourJobShapesYourIdentity 19.ThePainsofLeadership 20.WouldItBeBetterforYourJobIfYouWereCelibate? 21.OnStressandInnerVoices 22.OnBeingWaryofSimple-LookingIssues 23.OnCommuting 24.OntheSorrowsofWork 25.OnMisemployment 26.OnGuilt-tripsandCharm SorrowsofWork|Uncategorised Status&Success 01.TheProblemwithIndividualism 02.WinnersandLosersintheRaceofLife 03.BeingontheReceivingEndofPity 04.Shakespeare:'When,indisgracewithfortuneandmen’seyes,Iallalonebeweepmyoutcaststate...' 05.OvercomingtheNeedtoBeExceptional 06.OntheLossofReputation 07.TheSecretSorrowsofOver-Achievers 08.YouAreNotWhatYouEarn 09.ArtisticPhilanthropy 10.TheNeedtoKeepBelievinginLuck 11.OnGlamour 12.TheIncumbentProblem 13.HowtoCopewithSnobbery 14.OntheDangersofSuccess 15.OnDoingBetterThanOurParents 16.SuccessatSchoolvs.SuccessinLife 17.WhyWeLookDownonPeopleWhoDon’tEarnVeryMuch 18.WhatIs'Success'? 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